Saying Goodbye to HysterSisters.com
Back in early July, I registered to be a member of Hystersisters.com. It is a support group for women who had or will have a Hysterectomy. The website is filled with all kinds of information for members and even for those who are researching. I would recommend this website for any women going through the surgery or will. I registered because I knew I would have the surgery soon and I needed support.
I read posts in forums and hope to get answers for my problems, but what I found helpful was not only the recovery progress thread, but the checkpoints--I needed to know what I would experience during recovery.
However, I have found that I was semi-alone. I never experienced a swollen belly as others have. Although I have experienced bladder spasms, fatigue and backaches, I couldn't relate to anyone for each checkpoint.
When I had some spotting, it wasn't as bad as others. (Although I had a mini period about the fifth week of my recovery). I found that I was blessed. And why is that? It is because my body had time to heal.
Most women who posts are older than me, have a family and a job. My life consists mostly of sitting around the computer. (I am an author). But I believe it began on the day of surgery.
Early in my life when I saw I had a lump on my body, I thought it was just muscles so I asked God to remove it supernaturally. 15 years or less, God answered my prayer by letting me find out that it was much more serious than that--A fibroid tumor. Fibroid tumors are not cancerous, but they cause health problems and I wanted it removed--the only way was through a Supracervical Abdominal Hysterectomy (Taking out the uterus only). It was through the surgery that God began his work in my body. My doctor only told me before I left the hospital no lifting and bending. Before I went home (the day before) another sign of God's work in my body, was how well I progressed. Although it was in pain, I willingly went for walks to keep my legs from clotting. I think I did it more than once a day. I was also able to eat solid foods the day after my surgery.
My doctor is very experienced and has performed many surgeries. I am not saying that others aren't. I am saying is that he was confident that my body would heal sooner. No one was there to see his medical team and himself operate on me, but God was. He guided their hands. He was in the OR with them.
Another reason why I am different is my faith. I don't know whether other women prayed before the surgery, but I did. As a result, I had peace that it will go well.
Most women who had a hysterectomy of any kind are older than me. Most of them have an active sex life or there wouldn't be a concern about "missing libido" what sex is like after surgery. I have no sex life. Another problem I would n't have and don't have is menopause. Women who had their ovaries removed would experienced before they hit 50. And if they haven't , then they are 50+ . I am in the early part of the late 40's and I have some years left before I menopause.
Regardless of what these members say, I listen to my doctor and my body. They shouldn't base their experience on my report and tell me that 100% healed is misleading. Even the administrator of the group agreed with them--I AM NOT LIKE THEM! I asked my doctor if I need to heal on the inside and he says no. He was the one who operated on me, not them.
I have decided to post no more in the forums. My recovery is over. I chose to listen to my doctor. I will not return because I have no need to. I can't help anyone because I didn't go through what they went through. Even my own doctor said the reason why he didn't tell me what I thought "I needed to know" was because I wasn't going to experienced each problem during the recovery.
God is my healer and he is still doing a work on my body.
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I read posts in forums and hope to get answers for my problems, but what I found helpful was not only the recovery progress thread, but the checkpoints--I needed to know what I would experience during recovery.
However, I have found that I was semi-alone. I never experienced a swollen belly as others have. Although I have experienced bladder spasms, fatigue and backaches, I couldn't relate to anyone for each checkpoint.
When I had some spotting, it wasn't as bad as others. (Although I had a mini period about the fifth week of my recovery). I found that I was blessed. And why is that? It is because my body had time to heal.
Most women who posts are older than me, have a family and a job. My life consists mostly of sitting around the computer. (I am an author). But I believe it began on the day of surgery.
Early in my life when I saw I had a lump on my body, I thought it was just muscles so I asked God to remove it supernaturally. 15 years or less, God answered my prayer by letting me find out that it was much more serious than that--A fibroid tumor. Fibroid tumors are not cancerous, but they cause health problems and I wanted it removed--the only way was through a Supracervical Abdominal Hysterectomy (Taking out the uterus only). It was through the surgery that God began his work in my body. My doctor only told me before I left the hospital no lifting and bending. Before I went home (the day before) another sign of God's work in my body, was how well I progressed. Although it was in pain, I willingly went for walks to keep my legs from clotting. I think I did it more than once a day. I was also able to eat solid foods the day after my surgery.
My doctor is very experienced and has performed many surgeries. I am not saying that others aren't. I am saying is that he was confident that my body would heal sooner. No one was there to see his medical team and himself operate on me, but God was. He guided their hands. He was in the OR with them.
Another reason why I am different is my faith. I don't know whether other women prayed before the surgery, but I did. As a result, I had peace that it will go well.
Most women who had a hysterectomy of any kind are older than me. Most of them have an active sex life or there wouldn't be a concern about "missing libido" what sex is like after surgery. I have no sex life. Another problem I would n't have and don't have is menopause. Women who had their ovaries removed would experienced before they hit 50. And if they haven't , then they are 50+ . I am in the early part of the late 40's and I have some years left before I menopause.
Regardless of what these members say, I listen to my doctor and my body. They shouldn't base their experience on my report and tell me that 100% healed is misleading. Even the administrator of the group agreed with them--I AM NOT LIKE THEM! I asked my doctor if I need to heal on the inside and he says no. He was the one who operated on me, not them.
I have decided to post no more in the forums. My recovery is over. I chose to listen to my doctor. I will not return because I have no need to. I can't help anyone because I didn't go through what they went through. Even my own doctor said the reason why he didn't tell me what I thought "I needed to know" was because I wasn't going to experienced each problem during the recovery.
God is my healer and he is still doing a work on my body.
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